Jun. 03, 2008
As you know,I am in a new relationship. It's pretty cool, but as with any new relationship, there's a period of adjustment. I like to think of this as the warming up period. We're all very familiar with the cooling down period, and everybody hates that, but hte warming up period can be just as trying in other ways. For example: aren't we always comparing, conscienciously and unconscienciously, the new person we're with against the ex we last had? And is that wasn't hard enough, how about our friends and loved ones having to get used to a new man or woman being in their loved one's life? That causes stress in itself. I'd like to concentrate on that for today. I know that for the last few weeks, the Shredder and I have been seeing a lot of each other and getting to know each other's ways and idiosyncracies, and because of that, I've been neglecting my friends. It annoys me when a friend of mine does that, so I've been asking myself why? I have also been asking myself if it's just because I'm a girl? Is it just us that tend to immerse ourselves in a new thing? Or do guys do the same thing? I think that we're both pretty equal in our neglectful ways. For example: My good buddy the go-to-gay is going through the same thing. HIs best friend and roommate has found a wonderful boyfriend and is moving out in a month. THe GTG is beside himself. He's not only losing his best friend to another man, but he's losing his roommate and drinking partner in one fail swoop. HIs roommate just thinks he's being jealous, but I totally understand!! It sucks when someone comes in and steals your best mate away, right from under your nose. SO!! Today, I make a pledge to you, my friends, I will not be THAT GIRL. I will return calls and texts right away like I used to, and we will hang out everyweek like you're still the centre of my universe. Because you are.